when I bend a low note, my volume skyrockets. Anyway I can bend quietly?
I don’t know what you consider loud…
Considering you are probably using more in-breath pressure to initially find the bends – Once your reeds adapt/adjust to your way of playing; and you find you can reach them easier – Then there should be no difference in volume between regular draws and bend draws.
Also...is bending a high note (7,8,9,10) the same as bending a low note? 'Cause I can't bend those at all.
There is virtually no such thing as bending the 7 - blow or draw. Discounting such things as those exceptionally tricky overblows/overbends – for all intents and purposes then, the 8,9,10 bends are achieved by blowing, not drawing.
Hope this helps!
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